I’ve got the first book of the trilogy, Fifty Shades of Grey, and have started it but find it doesn’t hold my attention. I’ve been curious about that. One reason is because I don’t identify with the heroine, a 21-year old graduating college. I’d rather read about the sexual adventures of someone closer to my age.

However, as Joseph and I have heard people report that Fifty Shades of Grey is opening up women to their sexuality, that more couples are having more satisfying love making because women are reading the book, and that it has basically become the newest answer to the question, “how to fix a relationship,” I realized something. I am sexually satisfied. Maybe I don’t need the book.

On another point though, I had an inspired thought about the phenomenon around Fifty Shades of Grey when I saw the author interviewed on The View.

If as a result of this trilogy more women are making themselves more sexually available to their partners, if more couple-ships are improving because people are having fun having sex, and if this is happening in at least two countries, perhaps two whole continents (the author is British and sales are topping charts in the U.S.), then this phenomenon could positively affect the planet.

That’s a grandiose statement. But more couples having fun in bed is good for everyone. More women opening up to their sexuality and being more receptive to their partners’ advances (and having success advancing on their partners) is good for life and living.

Please understand that with what I am about to assert, I am not speaking of the conscious and intentional choice for celibacy – which is a sexual expression.

When people shut down sexually because they don’t have time, life is too demanding, they’ve forgotten how fun it can be, their primary relationship has suffered to the point of creating lack of attraction, whatever the reason; when people shut down sexually, then joy, love, pleasure, hope, happiness, kindness, compassion, and creating life, are just a few of the life giving qualities and experiences that have the potential to also get shut down. In addition, women and men who are sexually shut down become dry and brittle in many if not most of their relationships.

Therefore, I say that more people relaxing and having fun and fulfilling sex lives in their marriages and romantic partnerships is good for the planet. It might even lead to a positive, global shift in how we all relate to each other.

Perhaps the universe is supporting Fifty Shades of Grey not because it is or isn’t pornographic, but because it is helping people become more receptive and available to the #1 life giving activity on earth.

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