"In our first meeting Joseph helped me to see the true causes of my problems, the causes that dwelled within me - my relationship to myself. He soon initiated me into the path of self-love, which has drastically altered all the important relationships of my life in such a positive way that I could have never imagined."

- Robert Lee Camp

You might be, if

  • You frequently give your husband or romantic partner advice.
  • You pay the bills, not because it's your forte, but because you only trust yourself to get it right.
  • You do anything because you only trust yourself to get it right.
  • You monitor his conversations (he may not get something right!).
  • You take out the garbage, mow the lawn, fix things around the house, not because it's your forte, but because, if you want it done, you have to do it yourself
  • You carry the financial burden for the family and resent it or have to manage fear for being the one who carries the financial burden.any negative experience associated with this as opposed to carrying the financial burden and being happy to provide for your family in this way...
  • You interpreting the intentions behind his words to others in order to keep the peace or to help others understand him better.
  • You second guess his decisions and choices.
  • You routinely clean up after him (this does not apply if he cooks and you clean the dishes).
  • You do anything on his behalf that he could take care of himself, not because you want to gift him with this action, but because you are afraid to rock the boat by asking him to take care of it himself (because when you do ask him for what you want he throws a tantrum, resenting you [a.k.a. "mama"] for asking him to pull his own weight).
  • You pick lint off his clothes.
  • You scold him and you mean it, it isn't playful teasing.
  • You correct him.
  • You are willing to put his issues and private information out there in public while you guard your own.
  • You make him wrong every time an action or word of his makes you uncomfortable (there's a fine line between heated dialogue because two people are each trying to get what they want while listening at the same time and one person driving the other into submission).
  • You feel jealous of his relationship with his mother.
  • You feel like his sex slave and it's no longer a fun bedroom game.
  • You accommodate his needs first; usually inconveniencing your self to keep from inconveniencing him.
  • You act like or feel like his servant.
  • You act like or feel like the children's servant.
  • You give your son(s) attention, love, and affection that you do not extend to your daughter(s).

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