You might be a mama's boy, if...
- You have an ever present sense of inadequacy as a man.
- You believe you are ineffectual in your role as a husband or as a romantic partner.
- You believe you are ineffectual in your role as father.
- You believe you are ineffectual as a provider for your family.
- You have persistent problems in your relationships at home, at work, and with friends.
- You are unable to make decisions that benefit others or even yourself.
- Procrastination, rather than being a means to a creative end, is a real problem at home, work, and in social situations.
- You experience fear on a daily basis.
- You spend too much time pushing down feelings of fear.
- You believe you are depressed or have you been diagnosed as having depression.
- You can't imagine fulfilling your life's purpose.
- You feel like a failure on a daily basis.
- You experience rage and frequent outbursts of anger.
- You express aggression towards women or children.
- You bully people to compensate for feelings of inadequacy or failure.
- You engage in daredevil behavior, taking unnecessary risks.
- You are promiscuous.
- You are chauvinistic or patronizing in your behavior or attitude towards women, children, or men you believe to be inferior to you.
- You are unable to have a friendship with a man or woman because you cannot refrain from being competitive.
- Your wife or romantic partner "mothers" you.
- Your wife or romantic partner chronically second guesses your decisions and choices.
- Your wife or romantic partner feels free to correct you in public in ways that are embarrassing. (ex: are you chastised, made fun of, made wrong, or treated rudely?)
- If so, you either do not confront your wife or romantic partner concerning this behavior or you do so with passive-aggressive behavior.
Human behavior is obviously very complex and there could be many causes of the above behaviors. However, these items are meant to be self-revelatory, assisting men in locating those behaviors that indicate a man's tie to his mother's sphere of influence and a lack of a foundation in the masculine field.
Please note: No matter how you felt about yourself on these items, rage, violence or abusive behaviors directed at women or children indicate a poor masculine identity. Any evidence of abusive behavior, physical or emotional, requires a man to seek assistance in strengthening his masculine identity.