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Do you frequently give your husband or romantic partner unasked for advice?

Yes            No

Do you pay the bills, not because handling finances is one of your gifts, but because you only trust yourself to get it right?

Yes            No

Do you do anything because you only trust yourself to get it right?

Yes            No

Do you monitor his conversations (he may not get something right!)?

Yes            No

Do you take out the garbage, mow the lawn, or fix things around the house, not because you love it, but because if you want it done, you have to do it yourself?

Yes            No

Do you carry the financial burden for the family and resent it?

Yes            No

Do you interpret what he says to the people he is talking to (even though you are all speaking the same language)?

Yes            No

Do you second-guess most of his decisions and choices?

Yes            No

Do you routinely clean up after him?

Yes            No

Do you do anything on his behalf that he could take care of himself, not because you want to make a gift of it, but because you are afraid to rock the boat by asking him to take care of it himself?

Yes            No

Do you pick lint off his clothes?

Yes            No

Do you scold him and you mean it – it isn’t playful teasing?

Yes            No

Do you correct him?

Yes            No

Are you willing to put his issues and private information out there in public while you guard your own?

Yes            No

Do you make him wrong every time an action or word of his makes you uncomfortable?

Yes            No

Are you jealous of his relationship with his mother?

Yes            No

Do you feel like his sex slave?

Yes            No

Do you accommodate his needs first and resent it?

Yes            No

Do you act like or feel like his servant?

Yes            No

Does he abuse you or threaten to abuse you if you do not take care of him when and how he wants to be taken care of?

Yes            No

Do you act like or feel like the children’s servant?

Yes            No

Do you give your son(s) attention, love, and affection that you do not extend to your daughter(s)?

Yes            No

Do you feel as though your husband is an extra child for you to attend to?

Yes            No

Does he have affairs that you choose to forgive repeatedly?

Yes            No

Does your father confide things in you that he expects you to hold in confidence and not share with your mother?

Yes            No

Does your father or mother lean on you for support in ways they should be getting from their partner?

Yes            No